Saturday, October 31, 2009

Days Falling Backward into Velvet Night

Turning ninety in August was a milestone for my mother, in fact for an entire family blessed and cursed by both the longlife and shortlife genes. Turning ninety with all of her charm and intellect intact was an accomplishment she cherished and we celebrated. My once tall mother is now tiny, and fragile with skin so thin the blood pools at every touch. She is lively, strong-willed and determined most days. She has scores of friends and always makes sure others are included and supported. In her Independent Living community she writes and edits a monthly newsletter, makes lively contributions to her book group, and attends the opera. She refuses to be assigned a regular place in the dining room, insisting that she will "eat around" because life is more interesting if one meets and connects with all of her neighbors. A week ago she took a spill, broke her hip, went into surgery and woke up confused and disoriented. Her mind, more precious than her mobility began to slip into other times and places. The docs said this is not unusual as there has been a combination of trauma, anesthesia, painkillers, oxygen levels, and dehydration. Glad to report that time and Gator Aid seem to be making things a bit better.

4 comments:

One Woman's Journey said...

Thank you for this post. Your mother has a great spirit. My mother similar. She passed away at 83, 9 years ago. My aunt passed away at 94 a few months ago and similar to your mother. We have long life genes and the not so long also. Thinking of you and your mother. Warm and healing wishes sent your way.

Ralph said...

So great to read your description, sad to read of the fall, and great again to see her recovery!

southernlady64 said...

It was so nice to read about your mother and I am so glad she is making a recovery. My father fell and broke his hip and never recoved from it. I love that she is so involved in so many different things at her age and that she refuses to be assigned a seat! Good for her. Great post.

Beth Niquette said...

Oh, my--what a darling she must be. I shall be praying for her. Keep us updated on how she is. Thank you for visiting my blog. I am glad to have found you.